Thursday, February 09, 2006
Hope Amidst Injustice
My heart has been very heavy and distracted lately so I have found it hard to post about politics. So I'm going to do a personal post today. I think it will be therapeutic for me and hopefully helpful to others.
First of all I had the weekend from hell. Saturday I was awokened to a phonecall from a close friend. She broke the news to me right away that her husband had molested her daughter. For anyone who is a mother these are the worst words you ever have to hear. There are so many other things a woman can survive. You can survive a death, divorce, an affair but to know your child has been molested is the most horrific news. And especially for the molestation to be by the person who is supposed to be your support system and help you through this trauma.
Another friend and I went over to her house and spent the whole day helping her deal with everything until her parents arrived from out of town. It was awful. As I'm doing her laundry I see her husband's clothes and a range of horrible emotions goes through me.
My friend had to contact a lot of people including her ex-husband who is her daughter's father. And on saturday we didn't know a lot of things so my friend was envisioning the worst. After the investigation it appears (although I'm sure nothing is for sure) that there was only one incident and her daughter was asleep.
Everyone heaved a sigh of relief that her daughter had been spared. We thanked God that He had intervened before something worse had happened. But my friend also realizes that her life will never be the same. Her hopes and dreams of having a normal, happy family life and future are gone. The death of the dream of what your life was supposed to be like. She won't be able to homeschool anymore and will have to get a job. Her daughter won't be able to see her step-father anymore and she won't know why. There will be no vacations together and no husband to help her through the difficulties of life. My friend keeps saying she doesn't know how to live her life now, this wasn't how it was supposed to be.
As I have been praying for her and trying to help her the awareness of the unfairness of life becomes a reality. What do you do when you feel like life is unfair and you have no hope?
I remembered a "Little House on the Prairie" episode. Mary was losing her sight and Charles and Mary were devastated. Charles was praying at the church and the Pastor told him that it was God's will. Charles lashed out and said how could it be God's will that his daughter was going blind? After initially being bitter and angry Mary went on to learn to cope with her blindness. Her dream before blindness was to be a teacher. She thought that dream was dead. But she ended up being a teacher for the blind. It was a different version of the dream. But the difference was if she had never gone blind she wouldn't have been able to help blind children.
So my thought was when it seems that you have no hope and your original dreams have been dashed God can give you a different dream. It may not be the one you would've originally chosen but you still have a special purpose and a reason for being here. It takes awhile to grieve and mourn your loss but while you are grieving you can be aware that there is still hope even though life is many times very unjust and very unfair.